We all have something in common. We all are dealing with significant losses and uninvited change and interruptions to our lives. When a tragedy and catastrophic event like the COVID pandemic our world of assumptions is threatened, if not shattered. The illusion of control with which we comfortably lived our lives has all but been erased. We used to see the world as a safe place, but no longer. What we used to see as a predictable world is no longer predictable. We lost our day-to-day routine and haven’t had a structured time and we begin to feel stress, anxiety, confusion, depression, and isolation. And we grieve.
Our culture does not handle grief and loss very well. In fact, like a silent conspiracy, we seem to have an unspoken agreement with others not to talk about our losses and grief. God instructs us to “share one another’s burdens”.
We may honestly wish a certain event had never occurred, but we cannot change the fact. Change and growth occur through loss. No one said that loss was fair, but it is part of life. God created us with both the capacity and the freedom to determine how we will respond to those unexpected incidents life brings our way. We are encouraged to find the “New Normal”. But I confess I am not sure I ever found the “Old Normal”.
The pain of grief can often cause you to want to withdraw from others and retreat into your shell. But having the face-to-face support of other people is vital to healing from loss. Grief is God’s healing process and as a community of faith we are called to share our grief. We talk our way through grief and the Church has created a place for that to happen this Sunday, Oct 4 at 6:00 pm, in the community room. I invite you to join the talk.
Dr. Mike Burns
Associate Pastor/Care Ministries